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July 21, 2020 – I gave Haven a bath in the sink before he left for

Daycare.  My face was really jacked up and I didn’t feel well.  Max harassed me all morning about sex.  HE stole my things and put them all outside.  He stole my cell phone 3x.  He stole my purse 1x. I hid behind a chair.  I wasn’t able to function all day because of that.  I had a snack and fresh water waiting for Haven under microwave when he got home.  Blueberry pancake pieces, snack jar, dried apple.

July 22, 2020 – I got Haven up when I heard him making loud-ish fake crying/wailing sounds from the bedroom.  I was up the night before getting stuff I had final for mailing. Cleaning.  Arranging Haven’s toys.  I did the dishes.  Rearranged the living room – way better now. 

There wasn’t any milk for a bottle, I dont think. I made him scrambled eggs and buttered toast, I gave him that, his drink cup, and some vanilla yogurt and blueberries.  I put him in his chair to eat.  HE finished eating before I was done getting my things ready.  I got Haven dressed.  I left with Max around 11:00 am after the lady got here.  Only the daughter came with her this time.  They looked at me weird when they got here but probably because my face was swollen. 

The house was messy.  I hadn’t had time to clean up before I passed out the night before.  Haven burned his hand on my flat iron.  He had been going in and out of the bedroom on walks back and forth to/from the living room.  Max was somewhere doing something – I’m not sure.  He as a rule comes and goes without saying hello, goodbye, or anything else to Haven or I. 

Haven had walked into the bedroom again to see me.  I had turned the flat iron very low because I had started to trim the ends of my hair while straightening it.   I pulled the flat iron off my hair to say hello again to Haven and he just reached up and grabbed it while the flat iron was in mid-air.  Really quick.  He let go right away but began screaming and didn’t stop for a while.  I found the last of my hempseed oil and put it on his hand.  Haven was too distraught to clarify which hand was burned, but I guessed it was his right one- neither hand looked too jacked up, but he was squirming so much at first that I wasn’t able to closely inspect either hand. 

Max came in and began to panic, making things worse for Haven by making his hand more uncomfortable by forcing him to put it in water- which made him scream even more.  Water might have helped initially, but it had been long enough that it was just irritating the healing wound.  I told Max.  I dont know if he heard or cared what I said. 

I googled what to do and read to give a baby painkiller to help, so I went to where Haven was and talked to him, telling him what I was about to do and showing him the baby Tylenol bottle and plunger syringe thing.  Haven is interested in how those things work and it stopped his crying, for the first time, for a few seconds

  At Max’s suggestion, I ended up force-feeding the medicine to Haven as he was still rather inconsolable.  After, that, I began to talk to Max about things that I knew would interest/distract Haven:  how many teeth HAVEN has now and how he would be able to eat delicious rocks soon, the rock-made rock-eating dude on the Neverending Story, etc.  Can’t really remember the stuff well right now. 

We brought Haven back to the bedroom.  I asked him if he wanted us to read him some books and he indicated he did, so I grabbed some books.  HE didn’t seem happy with my choices at first.  Max and I both read to him.  The first book was read by me and I read Look!  Look! Haven cried through most of it, but did enjoy a few parts I made goofy.  I made Haven a bottle.

Max brought me to postal place business to drop my USPS package.  I hid my face and grabbed a few small boxes on my way out.  

Spent most of the day after that at storage.  Looking for purse.   Re-organizing.  Getting things ready for mailing.  Made it to Goodwill, went back and got some pics and dropped THOR drum and broom.  Haven’t been able to find my Furla purse that needs to be sent out.  ($80)

Long wandering walk to nowhere – ended up in Leschi with a wood rocking horse with ½ seat, I hope Max will fix it as I’ve asked him to.  Thought about adding feathers and stuff as mane/tail.

Also brought Lightning McQueen race car I got a t Goodwill.  Also got Haven a big drum and a kids broom, which I left at storage. 

I also brought a 2-lb. Bag of “fancy” Gala apples, 2 oranges, a small single-serve cereal sized box of yellow-red cherries with stems, 5 or 6 single serve boxes of reduced sugar Cinnamon Toast Crunch and fruity Cheerios.  I also brought a Franz loaf of bread and 1 pound of butter.  1 can of peaches.  Trader Joe’s organic split pea soup, a bag of chicken Top Ramen, and a pouch for egg flower soup.  3 chocolate muffins.  

I brought clothes for Haven last night – his dresser has been emptied out since yesterday(??):

2 pairs of shorts:  a pair of Nike black and white shorts and a pair of cotton striped shorts (12M).  

2 long-sleeve onesies (18M):  tan/white polka dot from H&M, white Gerber

1-piece shorts light blue onesie (18M) with a dog on a skateboard on it.

Short sleeve onesies: tan/forest green dinosaur (12M), 3 new with tags tiger kitten-themed, white with red fire truck pattern

1 long sleeve button down striped shirt (12M)

Max got dinner from BlueWater – a burger and fries.  I had Haven’s leftover eggs and toast from that morning.  Upon arrival, I fed Haven some of everything I had brought:  cherries first, then butter (ha), then bread, then muffin, then apple.  

I gave Haven a sink bath. I made Haven a bottle and brought him to bed, laid with him.  Max woke me up in the middle of the night.  I barely remember saying goodbye to Haven – I was so tired and my eyes were incredibly bleary.